Heaven has a new fashionista now. Mallory passed away peacefully at home with her family on Wednesday, May 31, 2017. I know she is in heaven making sure everyone looks their best. I loved her theme of making lemonade out of lemons so as I sit having a cold glass of lemonade in her honor, I thought I would write her post.
I’m thinking of the slogan “cancer sucks”. And when it takes someone you know, someone you love, you understand what “sucks” really feels like. Especially when that someone is 27 years old, and your niece.
During this challenging time, I have turned to you, her followers, for comfort. Your posts of love to her, encouragement and photos have been really wonderful to see. You may not know this, but you gave her something I don’t think anyone else could. By being her audience, and by reading her blogs, you gave her a different kind of strength, a new kind of love, and certainly, a passion she worked very hard on, even near the end of her short but full life.
You allowed her to share her sense of fashion. She was a fashion diva from early on. She knew how to put clothes together and show them off with that incredible smile that was infectious. We used to joke that she could wear a burlap sack and belt it with a shoelace, know the exact shoes to wear, and look amazing. Fashion came easy to her and her blog was a way to share her passion.
At first, she questioned whether anyone would read her blog. Would she have any followers? By thousands of you reading it and commenting on it, you gave her her answer. She kept on blogging. So much so that she became one of Denver’s most popular fashion bloggers. She didn’t stop there.
When Mallory’s health really took a turn, first with cancer, and then an ileostomy, she shared her story. This was a tough decision for her as she did not want to be a popular blogger because she had cancer, or because she decided to get a bag. You again gave her encouragement to talk about her personal life. So she opened up, and kept opening up. To the point that others who had the same difficult decisions to make in their lives received encouragement by what Mallory was posting. Then Mal started posting about how to look amazing when you have an ileostomy bag! She blogged about what was going on in her personal life as well, the pain and sorrow she was feeling. Not many people can be that authentic. Way to go Mal.
I think all of us want to make a difference to people, touch people’s lives somehow. Even if there is one person in this world that we influence in a positive way, we have done something wonderful. Mallory not only touched those of us who knew her personally, but thousands who followed her on her various forms of social media. You touched her as well. When she was frustrated, tired with no strength, working on her next blog got her through. Seeing that people loved her passion made her smile. You kept sending her love, sending her encouragement, sending her strength. I can’t thank each of you enough for all that you gave Mallory.
I think we will all agree that knowing Mallory was wonderfully Sweet, and losing her has been incredibly Sauer. Go dance in Heaven Mal Pal.